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November 2017

INFP Weightloss Advice or Weightloss for Creative Explorer Types

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(Fi-Ne-Si-Te)
are the different developmental characters for the INFP. Every personality has these same 4 characters, but they come in different orders and strength levels. Also, being extroverted or introverted changes the nuances of them a little.

Our te function is very weak. Te is the goal-oriented/does things without paying attention to feelings/gets things done function. We are good at thinking (fi) and exploring (ne), but our doing-hard-things-because-we-set-a-goal function is underdeveloped. This doesn’t mean we can’t help it get better, but it does mean we have to be smart about how we use it. A good place to begin is that we can only spend about 30% max of our day focusing on te (planning/goals) before we get burnt out and need to return to fi (thinking) and ne (exploring new things). So if you’re trying to lose weight, use your te wisely, figure out how to make exercise a routine, or do it first thing in the morning while you’re still feeling ambitious. Also, I highly recommend getting rid of all tempting foods in the home, because you are a FEELINGS person. Your feelings are going to take over, so get control in your moments of te (goals), and use it to help you later when you are in feelings mode. Hopefully you won’t feel like spending 3o minutes going to the store just because you want chocolate.

So the way I see it(based upon my personal observances), some challenges the INFP specifically runs into when losing weight are:

-we make decisions with our hearts, so although we know absolutely everything there is to know about losing weight, when it comes down to decision time…putting food in our mouths and exercising…our brains check-out and we are very likely to do what we FEEL like doing. It is difficult to feel like eating healthy and exercising. I also fell into the trap of thinking that because I knew everything about losing weight, that I was good at it: this simply was not true.

Some things that are going to kill you before you begin:
-writing down everything you eat (too much te all day long, this one is not going to last)
-a strict workout schedule that you don’t like (yeah, feelings..)
-anything you can think of to reduce your reliance on te (detail oriented, stuffy, boring, and hard) and direct it towards thinking and exploring functions instead.

Some things that are going to help you exercise:
-combining your workout with fi(thinking) or ne(exploring)
-fi(going on long thoughtful walks while listening to music or listening to a audio book)
-ne (trying new fitness classes at different gyms, exploring is so fun!)
-dancing (so much happy feeling going on here, I’m going to EXPLODE!!)
-dogs (I love dogs feelings!)
-group yoga (smells, music, senses..it feels so good)
-having a workout buddy to help keep you accountable (not an infp or an enfp, get some j in there)
-also, I think strength training is incredibly boring, so some quick push-ups before bed or lifting weights while watching tv work really well for me.
-connect your exercise with the outdoors. (I know you’re a nature person)
-mall walking (exploring)
-going to different trails on the weekends and spending hours outside (exploring…don’t forget your swimsuit!)

Some easy ways to maximize te:
-Keep a workout calendar on the wall and put X’s (for exercise) on them if you worked out that day
-get it done while you are strong and not tired
-get a coach to keep you accountable and help you with your weak areas
-freezer meals, you can make them in bulk or buy them from the store. They are so wonderful when you are hungry and don’t want to depend on your feelings to choose. (I find the ones I make fill me up better than the store-bought ones)

Personally, I think it is a huge step simply to realize that this is a weakness for you, and that’s okay..you have some great strengths :)…but to treat it like a weakness and get help, align it with a strength, or do it when you are strongest.

If you are an INFP (or any kind of P), what do you use to help you eat well and exercise?

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Becoming A Healer

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beautiful glass in the light

β€œOn the girl’s brown legs there were many small white scars. I was thinking, Do those scars cover the whole of you, like the stars and the moons on your dress? I thought that would be pretty too, and I ask you right here please to agree with me that a scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.”
― Chris Cleave, Little Bee

Over at Geek Psychology, Sherman classes INFP’s as healers.

I’ve been thinking about this role as a healer and it fascinates me. Some of the conflicts I have had in different situations are clicking into place, they are beginning to form a picture.

  • eating healthier is more important than making people happy or entertainment purposes having a peaceful
  • home is more important than having a fun home
  • it’s okay to take on the burdens of others at the cost of myself
  • pain is sometimes necessary and not something to be avoided at all costs
  • faking happiness all the time is annoying
  • my super sensitivity to put-downs and sarcasm
  • the deep pain I feel when surrounded by conflict

All of these things have healing as a priority. They don’t define me as super uptight, but are a gift to be used.

One of the most freeing phrases someone told me about when my values conflict with someone else’s was “maybe they just can’t help it”, it’s who they are. The warriors job is to battle, the geomancer to control, the entertainer to make happy. Whereas, my job would not be to shut them out, not to try to make them like me, but to open the door for them to learn, to invite them into my world of healing for a brief time, to set appropriate boundaries that keep it a safe, healing place. Boundaries are essential for safety which is essential for healing. Preparing a haven for them with my gifts, a sanctuary….not a party. not a battlefield. accepting them and allowing them the freedom to heal. It’s a different kind of hospitality.

“The things that make me different are the things that make me.” A.A. Milne

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