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What Worked and Didn’t Work For Me in 2017

Boundaries, Career, Divorce

Some things that worked for me in 2017:

Dating my kids.  I’ve started dating my kids, they are entering that older kid phase where sometimes they are too cool for mom and don’t need me as much as they used to.  Our relationship is changing.

I had some wonderful times with my friends from church, I love hanging out with them, also I have become a lot closer with my cousins this past year.

I have gone through extreme depression and a divorce and survived!  I’m now in a weird angry stage where I don’t like people in general and am grumpy with the world.  We’ll call this “grumpy stage”, I don’t know how long it’s going to last, but it’s nice not to be sad all the time and I have hope that this too shall pass.  It’s okay to be grumpy.

Exercise works for me.  When I exercise I’m more happy, when I don’t, I’m not.  Exercise doesn’t seem to help me lose any weight, but it does wonders for my mood.

Acting on my thoughts instead of relentlessly thinking about things to death works for me.  When I just try something, it doesn’t even really matter what it is, if I just do it, I usually get rewarded some how.  Yoga, art, taking a new class…

Even if I don’t always like people right now, when I reach out to them, my day usually gets better.  This gives me hope that I’m not always going to be like this.


Writing.  I’m a writer, I don’t know how to explain it but must write.  It’s not even a conscious choice anymore, just must keep writing??  It has become like breathing to me.

What didn’t work for me in 2017:  

My diet didn’t work.  So I’m hiring a personal trainer to keep me motivated and accountable.  She’s not actually going to work out with me (this is helping with cost), just helping me set goals and keeping me on track.  I think this might be really good for me.

This blog.  I guess being all secretive and not really wanting to share things with the world isn’t working for the success of this blog, haha.

Cooking.  Working and trying to cook isn’t working for us.  The food situation just isn’t working in general.  Plus, we don’t actually eat at home with the whole co-parenting thing that often during the week.   The kids don’t eat when I do cook.  I don’t know what to do?